Why I Love Blogging But Not My "Blogging Battle"

I really should change that title to "Why WE Love Blogging" because lezbehonest, we all do, or else we wouldn't be in this sphere together!

As my blog has started to grow lately, I've realized just how many awesome people are out there. The comments and emails for my posts are already making such an impact on my little heart. How does it feel to put yourself out there and have people be excited for what you shared, relating to what you're feeling? It's amazing! It's so easy to believe that you're alone in the way you think or feel about certain things. But having someone be like "me too!" makes you realize that we're not alone in this world and there are plenty of people by your side when you don't even know it. It's pretty cool. I love hearing about bloggers weekends, I love reading their funny dating stories, I love the truth they share in their hardships, I just love it all. It's truly a community. 


But then there's the slightly "not so cool" part that I'm still struggling with... I've made a few posts that I will admit, when I was about to hit the "publish" button my little brainwaves were like "ehhh people are probably gonna think you're a bitch". But I've never really been one to care what people think about me so I hit it anyways. And then I think "well I must care a little if I even hesitated". And I don't want to offend anyone but at the same time I'm like, well it's MY mouth blog I can say what I want to! Then I realize... there is a battle in this blogging thing! When is it "too much"? When are you sharing too much? When are you being too offensive? 

well, if Louis says it's ok...

I tend to be naturally offsensive, in the sense that -  I have one of the most foul mouths you could ever hear, and I love it! Although I do curse in this blog, it's only a fraction of how much actually comes out of my mouth. Some people cringe at those words (no idea why) and I'd hate to have readers turn away because of it but then again I'm like "but it's mine". Does anyone else have this struggle with their blog? Feeling like you have to clean it up just a tad? Is anyone else struggling with "how many times can I say FUCK and SHIT in this post before it makes someone clicky click that red ex"?




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18 comments :

  1. i definitely have a "blog voice" that is different from how i speak with my friends. but then i also adjust myself a little for work or when i'm with my parents. it doesn't mean i'm not being "me" but i just adjust a little for my audience. i think as long as you still feel that you are being you, that's all that matters!
    -- jackie @ jade and oak

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  2. Yes! I often edit my mouth in blogland, I mean while my readers are my friends they are not my sister who I start texting by telling her "no on likes you bitch". I'm just not sure my sarcasm will come across in writing to people who don't really know me.

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  3. GIRL be you. No battles, just let it roll. I love good, honesty, and even sometimes offensive posts. WHY PEOPLE GOTTA BE SO UPTIGHT. Love you. Love. this. blog.

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  4. I curse plenty too and sometimes I think maybe I shouldn't but then I realize if they don't like it they don't have to read, just like if they don't like me they don't have to see me. I can see when it becomes more of an issue when you're writing to gain followers and don't want to offend, but you won't have the right kind of followers. You'll have followers who like your "voice" and not you. There are definitely some life stories I don't share. Not because of my stranger readers but because of the readers I do know who those stories are about ;-)

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  5. Listen, if my next husband Louis CK says its ok then it is TOTALLY OK. If swearing offends people then they are just not the audience you are writing for, yeah? I've never read anything on here that was offensive to the point of unkind or prejudiced or anything like that, you know? I used to read a blog and once they posted some racial slurs, I was outta there--that's offensive. All your opinions on how you want to live your life are far from offensive so keep rockin' the party that rocks the party :)

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  6. I curse a lot. A LOT. I drop the F bomb like there is no tomorrow. For the most part I blog the way I speak, however even though I curse IRL, I cringe at my own cursing in my writing, so I try to limit the F bombs I throw around the interwebs haha

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  7. I'm a fan! And you'll probably only lose the readers that you don't relate to any ways. No big deal :)

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  8. I swear as often on the blog as I do in real life. It's not much, but sometimes it's necessary. If that's your voice, embrace it!

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  9. Occasionally I edit myself but it's always to protect the privacy of friends and family who might not want details of their lives shared on the internet. Other than that you gotta be yourself!

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  10. I think we all have this battle as bloggers - I know I do. I want to be open, but not too open. I want to express myself, but I don't want to lay it all out on the internet either. It's definitely a struggle, but I think as you find your blogging voice, it becomes a little easier to draw the line and stay on one side of it.

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  11. hey it's your blog so say what you want- as long as you're prepared for possible sassiness or backlash from other bloggers or even worse, anonymous commenters.

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  12. I think I am already unarmed in this battle . But the defence is "ME" . Sometimes I feel the same publishing dilemma , but hey . We own our blogs and little red cursors are over there so decide. GO ON !
    Noor @ Noor's Place

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  13. It def is a struggle deciding what is too much - too much cursing, too much information, etc.. I just tell myself each day, if I wouldn't let my employer, MIL, and mom read it, then I don't need to post it. Because its on the interweb forever! But always be you! I love your honesty & hate when people act like everything is effing (see what I did there?) perfect!

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  14. Kelly, I deal with this often! In the last two days, two of my favorite bloggers announced that they were quitting blogging indefinitely, and I have to wonder if what you are describing here doesn't have a little something to do with their reasoning. In a desire to get people to just stay and hang out with us on our blogs, it is so easy for self-censorship to creep up. I think if we do this too much, it starts to be no fun. This week, I have decided that I want to write what I want, when I want, and curse as much as I want, and I just have to be okay if that sends some people away. I hope you do the same because your stuff is gold, girl!

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  15. First of all, Hi! I'm petite just like you! I'm just under five feet! But hey, you are spot-on about this. Just like what you said, I have felt compelled to clean up my blog posts as well. I've drafted a few blog posts that never got published because I was afraid of how people might react to it. In all honesty - I curse a lot more in person than what I publish on my blog. By the way, I love that Miley Cyrus reference! I definitely sang it in my head as I read it! Holy shit! Your second name is Louise?! My name is Carla Louise! Kinda sounds similar! :) Glad to have come across your blog! I'm officially a reader!

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  16. This is major for me. I also worry that if I complain, someone who knows me and reads my blog will assume I'm passive aggressively digging in at them. Which would suck, especially if that was really who I was complaining about!


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