Walk A Mile In My Shoes



There is a quote that I've been seeing floating around the blog world and damn, it's so true. It's basically like, "you only see what I choose to show you". Truth is, what most people display on the internet is a very small percentage of their life. Whether it's a blog, an Instagram account or even Twitter. The millions of people on the internet are not there next to you all day to truly know you. So when you see someones "perfect" life plastered online, think again before you get on some forum and call that person spoiled, they may have a really dark life that you're not seeing. If someone typically posts fashion and beauty, and you don't like it, try to keep it to yourself instead of gather a circle of internet bullies to laugh and type about how stupid and awful she looks. Maybe there's a healthy living Instagram that you don't agree with and her food and fitness updates seem kind of weird to you. Well, maybe she has a disorder and putting negative comments on her posts make it worse. I could go on forever with examples and I know you could too because we all see it happening, especially in blogland.

The bottom line is to just stop judging people based on how they appear to you online. Don't join into the discussion, just keep it moving onto the next one. I'll admit there's some out there that should have their keyboard taken away. Recently I realized how incredibly bitchy a blogger was to her readers and clients and all I did was hit the unfollow button. It's that simple. If you're one of those that like to spew away at your finger tips, maybe don't go to their blog or social media if it bothers you so much. Instead, spend that time reading and writing about people that you do like. Internet thugs waste so much time dwelling on the lives of those they hate, I'd rather spend time admiring someone that inspires me instead of angers me.

I titled this post "walk a mile in my shoes" because, well, you can't. And I can't in yours either. But we can try. Remember, everyone is fighting their own battle.  Just because they chose to put some of their life online, does not mean that you know anything about who they really are as a whole. Let's just all keep the peace and work on our own issues instead of pointing out someone else's.


16 comments :

  1. Amen! People can be so mean and hateful. It's disheartening. If you don't like it, just unfollow. No need to spread negativity and make this any more like high school than it already is. I've had bloggers accept my money for sponsorships then never run the feature I wrote after being reminded by me several times, and other things similar. Did I get all over the internet and attempt to ruin a reputation? No. I said "lesson learned" and hit unfollow. Why add any negativity to the world?

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  2. That's so true! I got really offended by one blogger's posts a few times (I followed her because she did have some good blogging tips), but I finally just had to unfollow on bloglovin. I wanted to email her or post so etching rude, but I decided that it wasn't worth it. Plus, as a fellow blogger, I would prefer unfollows than a confrontation.

    And also, just like you said, everyone is fighting their own battles. Her background, upbringing, and current life situation surly color her views the same way that all of that affects me!

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  3. KristynMonaghanMay 7, 2014 at 7:50 AM

    AMEN! I don't understand why people continue to follow if they don't like the posts! Just unfollow! The negativity and hurtfulness just does not make sense to me!

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  4. I was thinking last night about how little I really know about the bloggers I am friends with and how little they really know about me. Unfollowing is the easiest way to rid yourself of negative, I do it sometimes just because I don't really connect with a blog the way I use to.

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  5. Well said! I can never understand how some people give so much priority to hating on people when you can just unfollow and find something you actually like reading.

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  6. I agree... if you don't like it, go find something you DO like!

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  7. Hallie OceansideMay 7, 2014 at 4:48 PM

    One of my favorite posts I have ever read.
    Nothing makes me more upset than negative bloggers, and people who put others down.
    It's the last thing any of us want to read, nor need.
    This community should be about positivity, and inspiration, or what is the point? GREAT post!

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  8. I love this. We are all quick to judge what we would do in their shoes, but we dont' know if we knew all the facts and everything. I just think we need to bethere for ppl

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  9. Very well said Kelly! If only those internet bullies would be mature and grow up, maybe one day they will and in the meantime we can just ignore them and not feed the trolls.

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  10. I think unfollowing is so much better than wasting energy writing about what you don't like, you don't have to read it if you don't connect. No reason for people to get mean.

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  11. I think this is a great post! There are some bloggers I follow who have the same people negatively comment over and over again and I just don't understand why they just don't stop reading if they hate it so much? I think online it's easy to forget these are real people we are dealing with, who have feelings, and not just a computer.


    I am happy to say that there are a lot more great people in the blogging community I have connected with than I could have imagined when I started blogging back in August. Cut your losses with the negative people...there are MUCH better ones out there :)


    mylowercaselife.blogspot.com

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  12. so agree - there are some bloggers who i'm not general fans of or i see annoying posts. i either ignore/unfollow because i'm too busy to post some unnecessary negative crap. people are weird ha.

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  13. This is an awesome post. I think you've done an excellent job of articulating what so many of us in the blogging world have been feeling and thinking.


    If I don't like a blog, I don't follow it. And if I disagree with something someone has posted, I won't say that I don't tell them that I disagree, but if I choose to comment, I do my best to make sure that I do so in a respectful manner.


    And the end of the day, I think that that is what it all comes down to. Having respect for other people, and treating them the way we wish to be treated.

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  14. I love this post b/c you NEVER know what someone is going through. People can hide anything behind a smile!

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  15. Yes. I read something else that said: "We're all in the same game just different levels dealing with the same hell just different devils." That, I think, goes hand in hand with what you've said here. Even I had to stop writing negative things on other people's blogs and/or tweets, because I realize that we're all just expressing ourselves in different ways and it's not my job to tell someone that their expression is wrong. I've chosen to promote only what I love and believe in rather than waste time bashing what I hate. It's worked wonders.

    Great post, very well said...and thankful that someone said it.

    www.shessoeclectic.blogspot.com

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