Long Hair vs Short Hair

I'm really hoping that this is something many of you deal with and maybe can also help knock some sense into me - I'm having a major battle with myself in the hair department. My hair is long right now, middle of my back long and it has taken me 4 years to get it there. Did you read that? Four years. I love it long, I love long hair so much. But, it's kinda just there and I've been unhappy with it for quite sometime now. I have really thin hair so although it's a decent length, it doesn't do anything marvelous.






See, it's just there - even when I try to do something nice to itEvery time I go to my stylist I say "trim and keep the long layers". How boring, I know. And now I should say "I'm just so over it" but I'm terrified to because it took me four years to get this. But the truth is that I am over it, I think. I don't know. I'm scared! It's just boring and doesn't do anything and I feel like I need a little va-voom kind of change in this department.


So if you're obsessed with beauty gurus like I am, you may have seen that Nicole Guerriero recently chopped her locks into a long bob-ish, kinda, and it's gorgeous! It's also a length very similar to what I've had many times in the past - so it should feel safe, right? No guys, I'm so scared to make this decision. Yea it's "just hair" and "it will grow back" but mine grows so slowly and I don't wanna wait another few years if I decide that I hate this va-voom change. I'm at this place right now where I'm like "all I've ever wanted is for my hair to be long again....... now my hair is long and I don't know what to do with it other than cut it." The struggle, it's real and it's a bus that I'm on. 

pix from Nicole's Instagram - to get an idea of the length


Let's weigh this out a bit. 

  • The cons of having long hair: so much work, so much product, so much money on product. 
  • The pros of having long hair: YOU HAVE LONG HAIR and it took forever to get it! 
  • The cons of having short hair: you no longer have long hair, if you want long hair again you're gonna have to wait it out a couple years. 
  • The pros of having short hair: a lot less work to maintain, a lot less product used and money spent on product, quicker showers, quicker to get ready everyday, you'll look in the mirror and feel like a fresh new woman, and if you really want long hair again.... you can get extensions


BUT I'M STILL AFRAID! 


37 comments :

  1. As you can see from my photo I have long hair too. You could try fringe, or tapering at the front of your hair, so it's at it's shortest at about chin length and then tapers longer (your stylist would know what I mean if I'm not explaining it well enough). A lot of what looks like thickness in my hair is product - mousse is your BEST FRIEND! Also important is a good blow dryer and styling brush - don't cheap out on these! Blow dry your hair upside down after you've applied mousse from roots to ends and finish with a good flat iron or curling iron. YouTube has tons of great tutorials available - I vote keep it long. You can't go wrong with long!!! <3

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  2. I took two years to grow out my fine and thin hair (and used every styling product under the sun--but it did not look as good as your's!), so I finally did the big chop about 5 weeks ago, and I'm really happy!

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  3. I LOVE having long hair! Keep the long hair, lol.

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  4. I also have long-ish hair, and I will say that I like having longer hair b/c when I'm feeling lazy, it can just go back in a pony tail. Shorter than that or too many layers and it makes me miserable. That being said, having shorter layers that end at about your shoulders makes it a lot easier to take care of, and if you tell your stylist that you want to keep it long enough to do (whatever) he or she would be able to tell you how short you could go. I think you should take the plunge!

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  5. Katherine LacabeJuly 1, 2014 at 8:02 PM

    I say.... wait until after summer. I hate having short hair in the summer because I can NOT stand it on my neck on those 100+ (who am I kidding, 80+) days. I also have thing hair that just lays there, so I finally went and got a perm and I am LOVING it. It's short because my hair was pretty short to begin with and after a perm you have to trim it due to damage... but I love it!

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  6. I'm always afraid too!! Maybe cut a couple of inches off and see if you freak out haha

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  7. I so understand this issue. I am forever growing out my hair and with every trim..you guessed it growing it back. My hair is actually more work when it's short because it is naturally wavy. If you don't have that problem then the shorter length would save you time and money.

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  8. i guess the back button would just be extensions... i'll prob go for it and then invest in some haha. you're right it's not super short, it's like a long-short so i could still throw it up in a pony or even braid it...

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  9. yea i'm obsessed with youtube tutorials! i tried mousse recently and it made my hair very crucnhy - maybe i used too much? i do have a good hair dryer, but never have the time (actually, the patience) to bother with it so i always air dry.

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  10. legit every styling product... i don't know what was used in the above pictures but i can guarantee it was several things all together haha. i usually use a leave in conditioner and an oil and if needed a voluminizer on my roots. it's usually a "dump everything on it" moment.

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  11. i do too, but what do you do to enjoy keeping it long? my hair is thin so it never gets all big and pretty when i have it down, i pretty much live in a ponytail or messy bun haha

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  12. yea i will def have to tell her that i want it long enough to still be able to throw it up if i need to. maybe it if sits about 1/2 an inch below my shoulders... eeeek! :)

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  13. i have naturally wavy/curly hair so i wouldn't be able to go the perm route, i think having it a little shorter will thicken it up a bit. ahh, i don't know! i would hate it sitting on my neck too, that's why i was so interested in the way nicole cut it, it's still long enough to put up.

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  14. ahh, more work!? i have naturally wavy/curly hair so i think a splash of product and letting it air dry would be ok. i hope. i guess it's all trial and error! eeek!

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  15. that's a good idea! BABY STEPS.

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  16. every trim even puts me into a frenzy since they always cut more. thankfully, i've found someone that doesn't do that.
    yikes, my hair is naturally wavy/curly also. and i can't for the life of me remember if it was a pain in the ass when i had it that length before. i'm thinking that if i go for it, i'll have to buy some extensions as a plan B. haha

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  17. see, that's kinda where my head is at. a lot of times, a new haircut/style really can boost confidence on someone. it's no secret on this blog that for months i've been a hot mess, so i'm thinking like... what if this boost just happens to help me out of my rut? i won't know unless i try though!

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  18. I chopped a lot of my hair at the beginning of the year and I LOVED the result! I was terrified that I would miss my long hair but i was actually a little sad when it grew back..I say go for it! I think a long bob would be gorgeous on you!

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  19. eeek, i think i'm gonna do it!

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  20. I chopped off my hair after it took me years to grow it out and at first, I loved it but now I regret it. I miss my long hair. But, I didn't think it through. It was an impulse decision. I went to the hair salon for a trim and right then and there I went for it. My hair stylist even told me, don't do it if you haven't thought it through. So my advice - think about it first, trim little by little, look at pinterest hair boards, until you are 100% sure.

    I'm okay with my hair length now only because long hair makes me look younger. The only person NOT okay with my short hair is my cousin because her wedding is in 4 months and I wasn't suppose to cut it. haha. :)

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  21. I mean i just chopped mine off this week and love it :) then again ask me in a month or two if my thoughts are still the same!

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  22. I'm taking the plunge and chopping mine off this afternoon! I've spent about two years growing mine out, but I really can't take it anymore. I have the finest, thinnest hair on Planet Earth and when it is this long IT DOES NOTHING! I'm seriously. Lately, I'll spend like 30 mins styling it to get walk out of the house and 5 minutes later it look like I just woke up! SO frustrating! Plus, the longer my hair gets, the more of it that falls out. And let's face it -- with hair this thin, I cannot continue to clean the equivalent of a small dog out of the drain after every shower (where does it keep coming from!?!?!) So yes... In less than 2 hours, I'm going to long bob route and I'm thrilled!

    -Kate
    www.theflorkens.com

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  23. I'm in the opposite boat! I lost all my hair during chemo in 2006 and I've been trying to grow it to your length since then!! For some reason, my hair gets to about 2 inches below my shoulders and stops :( But for me, shorter hair ISN'T easier simply because it grew in curly. The shorter it is, the curlier it is. Which means more products to tame it. The longer it is, the less products I'm using (post-shower that is). BUT I will say, wearing it curly does save me time from the flat-ironing. What you if you don't make a drastic cut? Don't cut tons of inches, but get more than a trim? See how you feel then? You can always cut more!

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  24. AHHHH!!!! i just made my appt for TONIGHT!!! you're prob in the chair now or just getting done and i'm going in 3 hours! ahhh!

    legit ... "when it is this long IT DOES NOTHING! I'm seriously. Lately, I'll spend like 30 mins styling it to get walk out of the house and 5 minutes later it look like I just woke up! SO frustrating! Plus, the longer my hair gets, the more of it that falls out."..... .EXACTLY it's like i said it myself. that photo of my up there with the headband on, i had hot rollers in for like 30 mins and the moment i stepped out the door they all fell flat. GOODBYE LONG HAIR! eeeek!

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  25. just made my appt for tonight!! eeeeeeeek!

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  26. i know that i'm gonna miss my long hair, especially since it takes so long to grow but i'm just gonna allow myself to invest in some bellami extensions.

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  27. that's actually very true that the shorter it is, the curlier it is. hmm, i'm sure with the right product i could find a way to tame the curls down a bit with it being air dried. trial and error? haha

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  28. seriously it's so hot on her! but really, every single hair style and color that she's had has looked flawless. she's just one of those lucky ones..

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  29. You can do no wrong! i think you have a face that can go with long or short!

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  30. I think you'll look gorgeous either way! Seriously. You could pull both looks off, so, I say go for it!

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  31. Katherine LacabeJuly 2, 2014 at 6:11 PM

    Well you're lucky in that... Do something not too short, something long enough to put up if need be!

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  32. my hair is usually a little below shoulder length and it's sorta thin-ish too so i feel like that is a good length. i can wear it up and do stuff with it but it doesn't taken one million years to blowdry. i've been growing it out for the wedding then i'm probably going to chop it off! maybe try a longer bob so it's not so drastic?

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  33. Do it!!! Girl, YOLO.

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  34. I think short hair looks super cute! But it probably depends on your face (if it's rather long, oval, etc). Taking risks is exciting though - I would totally do it! :)

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  35. Kelly @Turned up to ElevenJuly 3, 2014 at 6:55 AM

    I love Nic's hair and thought about a chop too. I also feel like my life is a non stop"growing out phase" after a hair cut. I say, go half way. Go a few inches shorter, [2 or 3] see how you feel, then take the plunge if you are still itching for a do like hers.

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  36. I'm always in a battle over it too. When I cut my hair short, I want it long again. When I have it long, it gets stuck in everything and I want to cut it short. Sighs.

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  37. I'm seriously doing the same thig right now. I dyed my ends blue for something different and now I just want to chop my hair off because I'm tired of the blue but don't want to damage it more dying it back. I think if you count the pros and cons you listed your have the most for short hair so go for it! Again, investing in extensions can give you that long hair again anytime you want!

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